Why do so many Codependents have alcohol addiction problems?
First, codependency often includes placing a lower priority on one's own needs, while being excessively attentive with the needs of others that the codependency is in relationship with. Alcohol is a good escape from care taking…
Note: Codependency can occur in any category of relationship, including the codependent’s family, their work, friendships, and also romantic (or spouse) and also peer or community relationships.
Codependency may also be exemplified by denial, low self-esteem, excessive acquiescence, or control patterns. Alcohol is a good escape from self-esteem issues…
A Codependent’s affiliations are a type of dysfunctional helping relationship where one person supports or enables another person’s possible addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement. Alcohol is a good escape from care taking another addict…
People with a tendency to be a codependent enabler often find themselves in relationships where their primary role is that of rescuer, supporter, and sounding board. Alcohol is a good escape from rescuing…
Bottom-line these collaborator types are often dependent on the other person's poor functioning to satisfy their own emotional needs.
Note: Codependency can occur in any category of relationship, including the codependent’s family, their work, friendships, and also romantic (or spouse) and also peer or community relationships.
Codependency may also be exemplified by denial, low self-esteem, excessive acquiescence, or control patterns. Alcohol is a good escape from self-esteem issues…
A Codependent’s affiliations are a type of dysfunctional helping relationship where one person supports or enables another person’s possible addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement. Alcohol is a good escape from care taking another addict…
People with a tendency to be a codependent enabler often find themselves in relationships where their primary role is that of rescuer, supporter, and sounding board. Alcohol is a good escape from rescuing…
Bottom-line these collaborator types are often dependent on the other person's poor functioning to satisfy their own emotional needs.
Much like codependency...alcohol addiction is a progressive, long-term continuing problem for many codependents. When a codependent alcohol addict tries to stop using alcohol and fails because life without this drug is just too hard, this is calling a substance addiction…so now there are two addictions going on.
TWO ADDICTIONS:
Codependency is the psychological addiction and alcohol is the physical addiction influencing the psychological.
Once a codependent alcohol addict is convinced he or she cannot live without alcohol, the dependency for both addictions can become an obsession. When the codependent alcohol addict uses alcohol even though he or she promised himself or herself they wouldn't, this is call a compulsion.
Extreme codependency is an obsession and compulsion…called Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD).
It is the nature of the codependent alcohol addict that they…the addict (normally caretaking another addict) doesn’t believe they are emotionally ill. Codependent alcohol addicts, in particular, tend to believe that they must be “OK” since they are taking care of a much worse addict or there are much worse drugs, and other people whose lives are much worse off as a result of their using these drugs. That is what’s I called denial.
I have found in my work counseling with clients that this combination addiction is a physical, mental and emotional issue. The physical aspect is the compulsion–the inability to stop once the client has started. The mental aspect is the obsession, or the overpowering desire to use alcohol, even when the client is destroying their own lives and the lives of those they love. The emotional aspect of the issue is there codependent unconscious and total self-centeredness.
As the codependent alcohol addict approaches their bottom and their two issues worsens, family members and friends have a tendency to enable the codependent alcohol addict, allowing them to postpone the ultimate repercussions of their two addictions. Understandably, loved ones try to ease the suffering the codependent alcohol addict may be feeling because of loyalty, love, caring, and a sense of responsibility.
For the codependent alcohol addict…family and friends often may give money (which likely goes to buying more alcohol), buy food, pay rent and bills, payment a bond for them to get out of jail of DUI, etc.
If you are the partner in this situation…by trying to save the codependent alcohol addict from him or herself, you are doing both yourself and the codependent alcohol addict a disservice.
Codependent alcohol addicts often try to manipulate loved ones through the use of guilt, fear, and anger. This is a very common tactic used (both consciously and unconsciously) by the codependent alcohol addict to get what he or she wants by taking advantage of the emotions of those closest to him or her.
Of course you know the treatment method I recommend
for both Codependents and their spouses: Click here!
http://theliberatormethod.com/Welcome.html
TWO ADDICTIONS:
Codependency is the psychological addiction and alcohol is the physical addiction influencing the psychological.
Once a codependent alcohol addict is convinced he or she cannot live without alcohol, the dependency for both addictions can become an obsession. When the codependent alcohol addict uses alcohol even though he or she promised himself or herself they wouldn't, this is call a compulsion.
Extreme codependency is an obsession and compulsion…called Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD).
It is the nature of the codependent alcohol addict that they…the addict (normally caretaking another addict) doesn’t believe they are emotionally ill. Codependent alcohol addicts, in particular, tend to believe that they must be “OK” since they are taking care of a much worse addict or there are much worse drugs, and other people whose lives are much worse off as a result of their using these drugs. That is what’s I called denial.
I have found in my work counseling with clients that this combination addiction is a physical, mental and emotional issue. The physical aspect is the compulsion–the inability to stop once the client has started. The mental aspect is the obsession, or the overpowering desire to use alcohol, even when the client is destroying their own lives and the lives of those they love. The emotional aspect of the issue is there codependent unconscious and total self-centeredness.
As the codependent alcohol addict approaches their bottom and their two issues worsens, family members and friends have a tendency to enable the codependent alcohol addict, allowing them to postpone the ultimate repercussions of their two addictions. Understandably, loved ones try to ease the suffering the codependent alcohol addict may be feeling because of loyalty, love, caring, and a sense of responsibility.
For the codependent alcohol addict…family and friends often may give money (which likely goes to buying more alcohol), buy food, pay rent and bills, payment a bond for them to get out of jail of DUI, etc.
If you are the partner in this situation…by trying to save the codependent alcohol addict from him or herself, you are doing both yourself and the codependent alcohol addict a disservice.
Codependent alcohol addicts often try to manipulate loved ones through the use of guilt, fear, and anger. This is a very common tactic used (both consciously and unconsciously) by the codependent alcohol addict to get what he or she wants by taking advantage of the emotions of those closest to him or her.
Of course you know the treatment method I recommend
for both Codependents and their spouses: Click here!
http://theliberatormethod.com/Welcome.html
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