THE KEY IS ARRESTED EMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT...
The way to resolve your CODEPENDENCY (and other addictions) is to engage in an in-depth process of emotional healing and self-nurturing psychotherapy.
For the treatment method I recommend click here:
http://codependency-treatment.weebly.com/
For the treatment method I recommend click here:
http://codependency-treatment.weebly.com/
8 Stages Theory
Characteristics of Codependency
The Early Identification
There may be some properties that appear when a person is codependent or has codependency. Identifying the characteristics in former years can mean a better success rate to overcome codependency later in treatment. Some of the features are more distinct than others. Thus, it can be hard to tell based on just the characteristics that are displayed.
However the 8 stages theory of Erickson can be helpful.
Bottom-line it is important to understand that… A codependent person must have the approval of ‘the drug’ (person who they are codependent with) before doing anything...and they most always are looking for that approval to feel good about themselves.
WHY?
First, because they have a poor understanding of who they are and what they want, so they look for others who are in need (and need someone to enable) they compromise their own well being for others. Conditioning as a child is the normal process that creates these Character flaws.
Relationship Tips & Treatment
Treatment of co-dependency is a gradual process that takes time. I recommend this treatment program. The person in the codependent relationship is really addicted to another person in the relationship, so that the makes it a complex recovery process.
The codependent person with the help of a counselor needs to find the source of the their problem in the developmental stages…(the codependent and the dependent events from the past)...or per TLM the subconscious programs in the unconscious mind.
If you need help resolving your codependency I suggest you 'ask for it' and invest in yourself! Your codependent tendency will be to put others before YOU.
You are the Golden Goose...not the golden egg...
If you are serious about changing,
I encourage you to schedule a FREE CONSULTATION (with me) at:
Click Here: http://www.TheLiberatorMethod.com
Best,
Todd Tawzer
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References:
Dependents…Codependents misc. notes:
· People that feed the addiction, and add to the complexity of co-dependency.
· It is sometimes helpful to fulfill the need to go back to that person, and stop doing the things they did in the past.
· Realize others (their) shortcomings when it comes to all things to the person suffering from codependency.
· The codependent person needs to learn to reintegrate into society and learn to live a normal and healthy life (to put yourself first).
· The dependent person that has substance abuse issues may have to go to a clinic that offers support and substance abuse help, advice and co-dependency treatment.
Issues About Meetings
If this is your first get in touch with with a Twelve-Step system, you may have some concerns what we do at activities and how our group functions. We will try to reaction some of those concerns here, but please you can get in touch with the S-Anon Globally Family Groups World Support Office at (800) 210-8141, or provide an e-mail to [email protected], if there is anything you don't comprehend. You may then be known as a provide who can discuss with you at greater interval about S-Anon, and who will try to response within one several weeks time.
Who comes to S-Anon?
What happens at meetings? Do I have to say anything?
How will S-Anon help me?
Will anyone say I've been to an S-Anon meeting?
Is this some kind of religious program?
Who functions this group?
How much will this cost?
Now what do I do?
Q. Who comes to S-Anon?
A. Before we went to an S-Anon meeting, some of us had some interesting or reluctant ideas about who we might see there, but S-Anon affiliates are individuals from all strolling of life: partners, partners, lovers, friends, bros, children and moms and dads of sexaholics. We are generally individuals whose way of lifestyle have been significantly experiencing another individuals sexaholism. We meet together to discuss our experience, strength and wish to be able to fix our common concerns. Our Third Personalized states, "The only need for member's system is that there be a problem of sexaholism in a relative or associate." What this means is that you choose if you be qualified for a S-Anon; your member's system in S-Anon is not recognized for you by any recommendations of the fellowship or of the activities you choose to go to.
You may be acquainted with of other Twelve-Step categories that provide help to guests of sexaholics. Although they are personal individuals, each "family" group cooperates with a particular recovery system for sexaholics; S-Anon cooperates with Sexaholics Mysterious. However, it is important to note that regardless of which recovery system (if any) your relative or associate trips, you are welcome at S-Anon activities.
Back to problem history.
Q. What happens at meetings? Do I have to say anything?
A. Events provide a rut to say what is in our minds and hearts and ideas and on our ideas, but there is no need to say anything about your situation until you experience doing so. You are completely able to just pay interest, especially at your first meeting. It is conventional at most activities to go around the place introducing ourselves by first name only. There will probably be some learning from S-Anon conference-approved fictional functions, that is, material which specializes in the S-Anon way to recovery. (Conference-approved fictional functions contains only material launched by S-Anon, Sexaholics Mysterious, Al-Anon or AA.)
A topic will probably be provided. Sometimes, the meeting go will get in touch with on those who indicate they want to discuss. Other categories choose to have affiliates discuss in turn by going around in a group, or use other methods to provide each personal an comparative time to discuss. We give each other to be able to discuss without interruption, avoiding "cross-talk" (give-and-take discussion, or any reviews directed at other members) or advice-giving. If affiliates wish to acquire opinions about concerns they discuss during the meeting, they can situation during their offering that opinions would be welcome after the meeting has turn. We discuss what is in our minds and hearts and ideas, and focus on experiencing others so we can acquire knowing into our own concerns. We try to look at a while frame we discuss so that everyone current will have an opportunity to discuss if they wish to. When the offering is finished, the go stops the meeting, and individuals usually stay for a few minutes after the meeting to discuss with each other. Some activities have a customized of going to a nearby consuming place for coffee or a cure after the meeting.
Not all you pay interest to at any particular meeting will have to you. That is why we say "Take what you liked and keep the rest." That is also why we suggest you go to at least six activities before you choose whether S-Anon is for you.
Back to problem history.
Q. How will S-Anon help me?
A. The individuals you pay interest to at activities may not have the same set of circumstances as your own, but you will probably be able to identify with some of their ideas. In S-Anon we discover out that there is wish for changing our own way of lifestyle. We pay interest to others, who were once in the same or even more extreme circumstances, tell how they are restoring their concerns and improving into the individuals they want to be. We comprehend from other affiliates how they used the S-Anon system and ideas to fix concerns just like those we are now experiencing. Whether or not our friends or near relatives ever look for for recovery, becoming aware of our own self-defeating activities securely like S-Anon is a considerable stage toward freedom and recovery.
Back to problem history.
Q. Will anyone say I've been to an S-Anon meeting?
A. You must all S-Anon affiliates to respect each other individuals anonymity; it is the key to feeling protected to discuss whatever we need to discuss. We should not discuss who we see at activities, or what is said there, even with our affiliates. In S-Anon we use first manufacturers and last name only, unless it is our choice to tell someone our finish name. We should never present the recognition of another S-Anon or SA personal without that individuals acceptance.
Back to problem history.
If this is your first get in touch with with a Twelve-Step system, you may have some concerns what we do at activities and how our group functions. We will try to reaction some of those concerns here, but please you can get in touch with the S-Anon Globally Family Groups World Support Office at (800) 210-8141, or provide an e-mail to [email protected], if there is anything you don't comprehend. You may then be known as a provide who can discuss with you at greater interval about S-Anon, and who will try to response within one several weeks time.
Who comes to S-Anon?
What happens at meetings? Do I have to say anything?
How will S-Anon help me?
Will anyone say I've been to an S-Anon meeting?
Is this some kind of religious program?
Who functions this group?
How much will this cost?
Now what do I do?
Q. Who comes to S-Anon?
A. Before we went to an S-Anon meeting, some of us had some interesting or reluctant ideas about who we might see there, but S-Anon affiliates are individuals from all strolling of life: partners, partners, lovers, friends, bros, children and moms and dads of sexaholics. We are generally individuals whose way of lifestyle have been significantly experiencing another individuals sexaholism. We meet together to discuss our experience, strength and wish to be able to fix our common concerns. Our Third Personalized states, "The only need for member's system is that there be a problem of sexaholism in a relative or associate." What this means is that you choose if you be qualified for a S-Anon; your member's system in S-Anon is not recognized for you by any recommendations of the fellowship or of the activities you choose to go to.
You may be acquainted with of other Twelve-Step categories that provide help to guests of sexaholics. Although they are personal individuals, each "family" group cooperates with a particular recovery system for sexaholics; S-Anon cooperates with Sexaholics Mysterious. However, it is important to note that regardless of which recovery system (if any) your relative or associate trips, you are welcome at S-Anon activities.
Back to problem history.
Q. What happens at meetings? Do I have to say anything?
A. Events provide a rut to say what is in our minds and hearts and ideas and on our ideas, but there is no need to say anything about your situation until you experience doing so. You are completely able to just pay interest, especially at your first meeting. It is conventional at most activities to go around the place introducing ourselves by first name only. There will probably be some learning from S-Anon conference-approved fictional functions, that is, material which specializes in the S-Anon way to recovery. (Conference-approved fictional functions contains only material launched by S-Anon, Sexaholics Mysterious, Al-Anon or AA.)
A topic will probably be provided. Sometimes, the meeting go will get in touch with on those who indicate they want to discuss. Other categories choose to have affiliates discuss in turn by going around in a group, or use other methods to provide each personal an comparative time to discuss. We give each other to be able to discuss without interruption, avoiding "cross-talk" (give-and-take discussion, or any reviews directed at other members) or advice-giving. If affiliates wish to acquire opinions about concerns they discuss during the meeting, they can situation during their offering that opinions would be welcome after the meeting has turn. We discuss what is in our minds and hearts and ideas, and focus on experiencing others so we can acquire knowing into our own concerns. We try to look at a while frame we discuss so that everyone current will have an opportunity to discuss if they wish to. When the offering is finished, the go stops the meeting, and individuals usually stay for a few minutes after the meeting to discuss with each other. Some activities have a customized of going to a nearby consuming place for coffee or a cure after the meeting.
Not all you pay interest to at any particular meeting will have to you. That is why we say "Take what you liked and keep the rest." That is also why we suggest you go to at least six activities before you choose whether S-Anon is for you.
Back to problem history.
Q. How will S-Anon help me?
A. The individuals you pay interest to at activities may not have the same set of circumstances as your own, but you will probably be able to identify with some of their ideas. In S-Anon we discover out that there is wish for changing our own way of lifestyle. We pay interest to others, who were once in the same or even more extreme circumstances, tell how they are restoring their concerns and improving into the individuals they want to be. We comprehend from other affiliates how they used the S-Anon system and ideas to fix concerns just like those we are now experiencing. Whether or not our friends or near relatives ever look for for recovery, becoming aware of our own self-defeating activities securely like S-Anon is a considerable stage toward freedom and recovery.
Back to problem history.
Q. Will anyone say I've been to an S-Anon meeting?
A. You must all S-Anon affiliates to respect each other individuals anonymity; it is the key to feeling protected to discuss whatever we need to discuss. We should not discuss who we see at activities, or what is said there, even with our affiliates. In S-Anon we use first manufacturers and last name only, unless it is our choice to tell someone our finish name. We should never present the recognition of another S-Anon or SA personal without that individuals acceptance.
Back to problem history.