UNDERSTANDING PSYCHOLOGY:
HOW TO GET OVER AN AFFAIR
Psychologist Abraham Maslow first introduced his concept of a hierarchy of needs in his 1943 paper "A Theory of Human Motivation" and his subsequent book Motivation and Personality.
This hierarchy suggests that people are motivated to fulfill basic needs before moving on to other, more advanced needs.
Types of Needs:
Maslow believed that these needs are similar to instincts and play a major role in motivating behavior. Physiological, security, social, and esteem needs aredeficiency needs (also known as D-needs), meaning that these needs arise due to deprivation. Satisfying these lower-level needs is important in order to avoid unpleasant feelings or consequences.
Maslow termed the highest-level of the pyramid as growth needs (also known as being needs or B-needs). Growth needs do not stem from a lack of something, but rather from a desire to grow as a person.
Self-Actualizing Needs...IS THE KEY TO AFFAIR RECOVERY...
This is the highest level of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Self-actualizing people are self-aware, concerned with personal growth, less concerned with the opinions of others, and interested fulfilling their potential.
SO HOW DO YOU GET THEIR?
The path to SELF REALIZATION IS THE KEY...BECAUSE...
This hierarchy suggests that people are motivated to fulfill basic needs before moving on to other, more advanced needs.
Types of Needs:
Maslow believed that these needs are similar to instincts and play a major role in motivating behavior. Physiological, security, social, and esteem needs aredeficiency needs (also known as D-needs), meaning that these needs arise due to deprivation. Satisfying these lower-level needs is important in order to avoid unpleasant feelings or consequences.
Maslow termed the highest-level of the pyramid as growth needs (also known as being needs or B-needs). Growth needs do not stem from a lack of something, but rather from a desire to grow as a person.
Self-Actualizing Needs...IS THE KEY TO AFFAIR RECOVERY...
This is the highest level of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Self-actualizing people are self-aware, concerned with personal growth, less concerned with the opinions of others, and interested fulfilling their potential.
SO HOW DO YOU GET THEIR?
The path to SELF REALIZATION IS THE KEY...BECAUSE...
“SUBCONSIOUSLY you have been programmed to Fail".
MORE ON Resolving your SUBCONSCIOUS issues BELOW...
BUT FIRST LETS LOOK AT YOU SITUATION!
IF you know your partner is disloyal to you, what’s next? Trying to live to tell the tale of an affair can be very tough. It is especially hard if you are constantly feeling suspicious and unable to trust your significant other again.
Finding out that your partner may have had an sexual relationship behind your back is one of the most stressful and, often times, fearful aspects that one can experience. Fear can manifest itself in a variety of ways after uncovering such an affair.
Here is What you can expect EMOTIONALLY:
1. Denial Frustration & Isolation after Discovering the Infidelity
It is a normal reaction to rationalize overwhelming emotions. It is a defense mechanism that buffers the immediate shock. We block out the words and hide from the facts. This is a temporary response that carries us through the first wave of pain.
It is safe to come to the conclusion that having been cheated on will lead to frustration. Your frustration will not only come from the cheater themselves, but the person they cheated with as well.
2. Anger Issues & Paranoia
As the masking effects of denial and isolation begin to wear, reality and its pain re-emerge. We are not ready. The intense emotion is deflected from our vulnerable core, redirected and expressed instead as anger. The anger may be aimed at inanimate objects, complete strangers, friends or family. We feel guilty for being angry, and this makes us more angry.
When I use the term “paranoia” I also mean “paranoid feelings” to convey the idea that any feelings you may experience could very well include suspiciousness. It is meant in this discussion to indicate a deep fear that someone or something is out to engage in an activity that may cause stress as well as loss.
3. Bargaining & Infidelity Issues
The normal reaction to feelings of helplessness and vulnerability is often a need to regain control–
...If only we had tried to be a better person toward him-her…
Secretly, we may make a deal with God or a higher power in an attempt to postpone the inevitable. This is a weaker line of defense to protect us from the painful reality of loss.
4. Depression
Two types of depression are associated with infidelity. The first one is a reaction to practical implications relating to the loss.
Sadness and Regret predominate this type of depression.
5. Acceptance of the Infidelity
This phase is marked by withdrawal and calm. This is not a period of happiness and must be distinguished from depression.
Coping with infidelity is a ultimately a deeply personal and singular experience — a Qualified Councilor can help you go through it more easily or understand all the emotions that you’re going through.
Also others can be there for you and help comfort you through this process. The best thing you can do is to allow yourself to feel the grief as it comes over you.
Resisting it only will prolong the natural process of healing.
What does your Future look like?
ARE YOU ON THE PATH OF SELF REALIZATION...
Developing trust...in your relationship or the next relationship will prove much more difficult...
Bottom-line...Affair Recovery is an ongoing, and possibly lifelong process for many unless the right Psychotherapy method is used.
I found a subculture of practitioners—psychotherapists devoted to inspire human behavior on a level I never knew existed...
A group that practiced ‘core issue’ therapeutic healing methods…
...OF SELF REALIZATION & Subconscious resolution!
This counseling Leapfrogged traditional COUNSELING treatments.
Same game, with a WHOLE NEW SET OF RULES!
Learn more at: http://TheLiberatorMethod.com
NOTES:~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
BUT FIRST LETS LOOK AT YOU SITUATION!
IF you know your partner is disloyal to you, what’s next? Trying to live to tell the tale of an affair can be very tough. It is especially hard if you are constantly feeling suspicious and unable to trust your significant other again.
Finding out that your partner may have had an sexual relationship behind your back is one of the most stressful and, often times, fearful aspects that one can experience. Fear can manifest itself in a variety of ways after uncovering such an affair.
Here is What you can expect EMOTIONALLY:
1. Denial Frustration & Isolation after Discovering the Infidelity
It is a normal reaction to rationalize overwhelming emotions. It is a defense mechanism that buffers the immediate shock. We block out the words and hide from the facts. This is a temporary response that carries us through the first wave of pain.
It is safe to come to the conclusion that having been cheated on will lead to frustration. Your frustration will not only come from the cheater themselves, but the person they cheated with as well.
2. Anger Issues & Paranoia
As the masking effects of denial and isolation begin to wear, reality and its pain re-emerge. We are not ready. The intense emotion is deflected from our vulnerable core, redirected and expressed instead as anger. The anger may be aimed at inanimate objects, complete strangers, friends or family. We feel guilty for being angry, and this makes us more angry.
When I use the term “paranoia” I also mean “paranoid feelings” to convey the idea that any feelings you may experience could very well include suspiciousness. It is meant in this discussion to indicate a deep fear that someone or something is out to engage in an activity that may cause stress as well as loss.
3. Bargaining & Infidelity Issues
The normal reaction to feelings of helplessness and vulnerability is often a need to regain control–
...If only we had tried to be a better person toward him-her…
Secretly, we may make a deal with God or a higher power in an attempt to postpone the inevitable. This is a weaker line of defense to protect us from the painful reality of loss.
4. Depression
Two types of depression are associated with infidelity. The first one is a reaction to practical implications relating to the loss.
Sadness and Regret predominate this type of depression.
5. Acceptance of the Infidelity
This phase is marked by withdrawal and calm. This is not a period of happiness and must be distinguished from depression.
Coping with infidelity is a ultimately a deeply personal and singular experience — a Qualified Councilor can help you go through it more easily or understand all the emotions that you’re going through.
Also others can be there for you and help comfort you through this process. The best thing you can do is to allow yourself to feel the grief as it comes over you.
Resisting it only will prolong the natural process of healing.
What does your Future look like?
ARE YOU ON THE PATH OF SELF REALIZATION...
Developing trust...in your relationship or the next relationship will prove much more difficult...
Bottom-line...Affair Recovery is an ongoing, and possibly lifelong process for many unless the right Psychotherapy method is used.
I found a subculture of practitioners—psychotherapists devoted to inspire human behavior on a level I never knew existed...
A group that practiced ‘core issue’ therapeutic healing methods…
...OF SELF REALIZATION & Subconscious resolution!
This counseling Leapfrogged traditional COUNSELING treatments.
Same game, with a WHOLE NEW SET OF RULES!
Learn more at: http://TheLiberatorMethod.com
NOTES:~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
The Bottom-Line is this:
The KEY to GETTING OVER an AFFAIR is in resolving issues from your SUBCONSCIOUS MIND!
It is part of the process of Self Realization.
We adults 'have forgotten' 90% of our experiences. Through our childhood filters, we deemed 10% ‘Important Enough to Remember’ and the rest has been 'LOST' (submerged in Subconscious).
This means, at best, most traditional counseling methods only have access to 10% of our Significant Information.
The unresolved Core Issues existing in our subconscious 90% remain LOCKED AWAY, indelibly recorded in our brains, but beneath our conscious awareness...
You must LOCATE the problem and then OWN IT (become responsible for it) in order to FIX IT FOR GOOD.
This means, at best, most traditional counseling methods only have access to 10% of our Significant Information.
The unresolved Core Issues existing in our subconscious 90% remain LOCKED AWAY, indelibly recorded in our brains, but beneath our conscious awareness...
You must LOCATE the problem and then OWN IT (become responsible for it) in order to FIX IT FOR GOOD.